Life On The Outside

Hello everyone. My name is Tom.

I come from a multi-generational Latter-Day Saint (LDS or ‘Mormon’) family, with two brothers and a sister, in addition to my two parents who have been married for thirty-eight years. My upbringing was fairly standard for those of us born into the Church: I attended church each Sunday, was baptized when I was eight years old, received the Aaronic Priesthood when I was twelve, attended early-morning seminary classes before high school each day, and enjoyed the youth social events put on by the Church. I currently have many strong ties to Mormonism, since nearly all of my immediate and extended family, and close friends, are active members of the Church.

After I graduated from High School, my friends all started to prepare and leave on their missions. This is when I took my first step outside of the Mormon framework; I told my family I wasn’t going to go on a mission. This was the hardest thing I had ever had to do. I had also just started dating my future wife, who wasn’t Mormon and never intended to be. Six years later, I married my wife in a civil ceremony, officiated by my childhood Bishop-turned-Stake-President. My attendance to Church was sporadic prior to our wedding, and then non-existant afterward. I grew disillusioned and discussed with the Church’s superficial ‘friendships’ and its increasingly narrow-minded teachings. It’s been 10 years of being ‘less-active’. Over the last 4 months, I have been writing an essay entitled, “My Apostasy From The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints“, which contains a detailed analysis of how my values and beliefs conflict with those of the Church. It also contains much of the research I have done on the Church up to this point. Today, I gave this essay to my close family & friends. As I await their responses, I realize that I’m now starting a new life as an ex-Mormon.

I have created this blog as a way for me to share my experience, opinions, and beliefs of life after Mormonism, as I have found that others have helped me in this way. I hope to be able to further explore my religious, political, and societal views, and share them with you. I encourage questions, comments, and challenges to anything I write here. It is my opinion that we should all find ourselves in that uneasy state-of-mind, where we challenge our core beliefs, on a much more frequent basis, as this is when we truly learn.


Posted on 2011-02-06, in Mormonism and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Good for you Tom. Wherever your journey takes you, I hope that you learn a lot from it. Feel free to question anything and everything! I’m not a Mormon, but I’ve been dealing with a close family member who has become Mormon, and its created a lot of friction between me and the entire family I grew up with.

    The good thing is that its caused me to examine and question my own faith intensely, as well as to delve into yet another religion entirely different from my own. I started up a blog where I go into that quite often, depending on the mood.

    Good luck to you and your blog (also, nice Flikr photos…)

  2. Feel for ya. Many good things are in store. With more time at your disposal, perhaps you will get satisfaction from hobbies or other associations. Also, many people with mormon backgrounds find satisfaction from friendships among those of us who have left. Good luck!.

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